Headship

                     Ephesians 5:25-30

²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing^[b] her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— ³⁰ for we are members of his body.

                                                 Written By: Matthew Bracey

It is often said today that “A man is the king of his castle.”  Everything within that castle must be firmly under his control.  This includes his wife and children.  Everything must operate according to his will and perpetuate his comfort.  Meal selection must meet his standard and be prepared promptly when he’s ready to eat.  The children should not interfere with his post-work unwind routine of kicking off his shoes and reclining in his favorite thrown-like chair.  And his golden scepter, the television remote or video-game controller, must immediately come to his sole-possession upon his entry to the home.  All men may not subscribe completely to this way of living and home operation.  But because of the great influence of this ideology in our cultural, a portion of this manner of home administration has crept into the majority of homes at some point.  The base formula: Use your family, gifts, and free-time to elevate yourself.  Though I didn’t know it, and wouldn’t have admitted it then, I had allowed this form of thinking to creep into my own home.

While listening to a sermon from Pastor Chip Ingram one day, I was blown away by the following quote: “Kingdom thinking says people are important, and you use things to help people.  Worldly thinking says things are important, and you use people to get things.”  This couldn’t be more true!  I saw that I was in Christ, yet content to be a product of my culture; instead of being a new creature in Jesus.  I realized that marriage wasn’t about “me being king” and keeping my wife and children in line so that I could have the most comfortable life I could.  But it was about showing that Christ is King, by mirroring His relationship with His Church.  My call to headship in my home is one of service, not dictatorship or abuse.  I have been given stewardship over my wife & children, with the responsibility of making sure that they bloom for God with all the brilliance He placed in them.  This can’t be accomplished with harsh words, oppression, and detachment.  Only by sacrificial love, prayer, and involved-discipleship can a man properly elevate his family.  And when we elevate our families continually in these ways, we elevate Christ.  Who by being lifted up will draw all men unto Himself(John 12:32), and allow all men to see that we belong to Him, as we show love one to another(John 13:35).   

Wisdom Is Supreme

Proverbs 4:7 - Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom.  Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

                                                Written by: Matthew Bracey

What is wisdom?  Is it academic excellence?  Is it street-smarts?  The lips of seasoned adults and senior-citizens often pour out stories of “how things were” and “the way things should be.”  These stories usually fall on the deaf ears of younger generations who feel as though the world operates far differently in their time then it did in that of their elders.  These stubborn youngsters are believed to be “rejecting wisdom” by ignoring what older people attempt to show and tell them.  Should we regard education, personal experience, and the words of long-time life veterans above all else?  Are we to forfeit all we have to gain understanding?  And if so, understanding of what?  What could be so valuable that merely understanding it would be worth more than all worldly possessions?

Job 28:28 tells us that the fear of the Lord is wisdom, and to shun evil is understanding.  To fear God is to respect Him, and to shun evil is to obey what He commands.  This is the whole duty of man(Ecclesiastes 12:13).  Therefore, when we respect and reverence God, and choose His ways over the alternate paths of the world, we are walking in our purpose as human beings.  Going back to the Garden of Eden, the plan of Satan has been to distract man from the purpose of God, and to offer and emphasize forbidden alternatives to Godly obedience(Genesis 3).  Though education, personal experience, and the words of the aged have great value and may add to one’s wisdom, they are not wisdom in and of themselves.  Wisdom is understood in the seeking & finding of the knowledge of God(Proverbs 2:5), the most important education.  The knowledge of God in Scripture will help us properly navigate through life and learn from the grace & mercy of God that we all experience(Matthew 5:45, Acts 10:34-35).  Though wisdom is not determined or guaranteed by age, you are more likely to find wise instruction on the lips of a 50 year-old than a 20 year old; from the mouth of one whose hair is gray, than one whose hair is black.  I’ve heard it said that “You don’t get to be old by being foolish.”  Though that statement has its flaw, there is much truth there.  Scripture tells us that we will be wise if we accept instruction and take advice(Proverbs 19:20).  Who we get advice and instruction from is key.  If we chiefly reverence the advice and instruction of Scripture, we can weigh the direction of others against it to discern whether their words are faithful, or folly.  Abstaining from foolish counsel is an act of understanding.  In certain instances, accepting foolish advice can cost you all you have, including your life. 

The only pursuits or plans that are truly worth your life are those that are rooted in Christ.  Remaining loyal to Christ is worth our every breath.  Jesus has promised us this(Matthew 10:32-33, John 11:25-26).  There is no more worthy cause to give your life toward, and if necessary, to give your life for.  Whether on this side of the Jordan or the other, the value of wisdom and understanding is above all things.  They offer protection from the wicked(Proverbs 2:12) & adulterous(Proverbs 2:16), health and nourishment to the body and bones(Proverbs 3:7-8), more value than silver, gold, or rubies(Proverbs 3:13-15), long-life, and honor(Proverbs 3:16).  And unlike anything else, growth and development in these holds promise not only for this life, but the life to come as well(I Timothy 4:8).